Ever noticed how some people just always seem to catch all the lucky breaks? They land the right jobs, meet the right people, and somehow, life just works out for them. Then there’s the other guy—the one who grinds for years but never seems to catch a break.
For a long time, I thought that was just how life worked. Some people get lucky, and the rest of us just have to deal with whatever cards we’re dealt. But honestly? That’s complete BS. The more I paid attention, the more I realized—it’s not luck. It’s mindset.
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Your Brain is Programmed to Find What You Focus On
A few years ago, I had two friends—Jimmy and Don. Both started in the exact same place. No connections, no money, just a dream. But the way they thought about life? Completely different.
Jimm ywas always saying things like, “I don’t think people like us can make it,” or “The system is rigged.”And I mean, I get it. He had reasons to feel that way. But here’s the crazy part—every time something went wrong, it just confirmed his beliefs.
Don, though? He had this weird way of always finding a way forward. Whenever something didn’t work, he’d just go, “Alright, so what do I do next?” He was always looking for solutions instead of problems.
Fast forward three years. Don built a business. Jimmy? Still stuck. Still blaming everything but himself.
That’s when it hit me—your mind is like a search engine. Whatever you tell it to find, it will find more of. If you keep telling yourself life is unfair, your brain will keep proving you right. If you start looking for opportunities? They start showing up everywhere.
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Your Brain’s Filter: Why You See What You Expect
There’s this thing in your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS)—it’s like a filter that decides what you notice. Your brain is hit with millions of bits of information every second, but your RAS picks out what it thinks is important.
Ever learned a new word and suddenly started hearing it everywhere? Or thought about buying a certain car, and now it’s all over the road? That’s your RAS at work.
Now, imagine if your RAS is programmed to see failure, struggle, and bad luck. Guess what? That’s all you’ll notice. But if it’s tuned to see opportunities, you’ll start spotting them.
And look, I already know some people are gonna say, “But bad things really DO keep happening to me!” And yeah, sometimes life does punch you in the face. But the people who break out of bad situations are the ones who refuse to let their brains get stuck there.
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Thinking Alone Won’t Save You—Actions Matter More
I need to make this very clear—just thinking positive won’t magically fix your life. You can’t sit in your room chanting “I am successful” and expect money to show up at your doorstep. That’s not how this works.
But here’s what does happen: Your thoughts shape your actions. And your actions shape your results.
Look at Oprah. She was born into poverty, went through hell, and could’ve easily accepted that she’d never make it. But instead of focusing on what she didn’t have, she focused on where she wanted to be. And that mindset made her take risks, seek out opportunities, and push harder than anyone else.
On the flip side, I’ve seen people who were born rich, had every advantage, and still failed. Why? Because they had a garbage mindset. They thought life owed them something, so they never put in the work.
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How to Train Your Mind to Attract the Right Things
Okay, so how do you actually shift your mindset and start attracting better things?
1. Watch What You Feed Your Brain
Your thoughts don’t appear out of nowhere. They come from what you watch, who you talk to, and what you read.
A while back, I stopped watching the news for a whole month. Not even kidding—my stress levels dropped, I felt more creative, and suddenly, I started seeing more opportunities around me. Not because the world changed, but because I changed what I was focusing on.
2. Change Your Inner Dialogue
If you catch yourself saying, “I’m just not good at this,” stop and reframe it.
“I haven’t figured it out yet, but I will.”
Instead of, “Nothing ever works out for me,” say,
“Every failure is just data—I’m getting smarter.”
It sounds dumb, but this shift changed everything for me.
3. Take Small Actions (Even When You Don’t Feel Ready)
I knew this guy who wanted to start a YouTube channel. For years, he kept saying, “I need the perfect camera, the perfect setup.” Meanwhile, another guy just started filming on his old phone. His first videos sucked, but he kept going.
Fast forward two years: The “perfectionist” is still waiting. The guy who just started? 100K+ subscribers.
Stop overthinking. Stop waiting for perfect. Just start.
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Final Thought: Your Mind is Already Attracting Something—Make Sure It’s What You Want
Like it or not, your brain is always working in the background, shaping your reality. If you don’t take control, it’ll keep reinforcing the same patterns that have been holding you ,
Are you gonna keep looking for problems? Or are you gonna train your mind to find opportunities?
I honestly couldn’t believe it when I first started making these small shifts. But once I did? Everything started changing. Not overnight. Not magically. But step by step.
And if it worked for me, for Amit, for Oprah, for literally anyone who has changed their life—why not you?